Updated: Feb 20, 2021
One of the more worrisome parts about eloping can be telling your family. Eloping can be such a misunderstood idea. People you care about may, at first, feel that you are robbing them of celebrating you and your spouse on this new adventure in life. The thought of your family and friends not understanding can be a difficult idea, so here are some ways to help them understand why you’ve chosen this way to begin your journey as partners.
The best way to start is to sit down and tell them face to face. You wouldn’t tell your parents you’re getting married over text, so you shouldn’t tell them about your choice to elope via text message either. Get together when you feel ready to tell them. Also, be ready to explain why. This isn’t a decision that you need to defend yourself on, however, you should be able to clearly explain why you’ve chosen to elope over a traditional wedding. Some examples could be
We want it to be small and intimate
We would like to avoid the stressful planning of a traditional wedding
We don’t want the cost of a traditional wedding
We want to take this opportunity to travel
It is what we feel is right
Another thing to keep in mind is don’t be afraid to share how excited you are! This is your day and this is how you want to remember it. Share as much detail about what you have planned as possible. This helps show your excitement, and it helps others feel included in your day since they know what your plans are. You could even have a small gathering either before or after your day! A big reason why people might oppose an elopement is because they want the opportunity to celebrate you and this new life adventure you’re on.
Also, SHARE YOUR PHOTOS! The photos taken on this beautiful day tell your story and show your family and friends just how much you enjoyed your time. Being able to see you as happy as you will be will help them understand that eloping truly is the best option for you.
No matter what, remember that this day is about you. While it is possible that some friends and family could be disappointed about this choice, the most important thing is that you get the day that is right for you. Hopefully, the above tips do give you some ideas on how to “soften the blow” and help guide you towards telling others of this decision. For more ideas and planning let chat.
Best of luck!